Edward Adrift

the full sitting position while Sheila Renfro gets out of the Suburban and walks to the other side to let me out. My ribs ache, but it’s not the screaming pain I’ve come to expect. With the door now open, I scrunch along on the seat until my feet are nearly out the door.
    “Do you need some help?” she asks.
    “No, I think I have it.”
    Slowly, I reach for the pavement with my toes, until at last they find it. I grab the door frame with my hands and push myself to my feet. Again, the pain is slight rather than overwhelming.
    “You did great, E-Dog!” she says.
    “Thank you, S-Money.”
    Sheila Renfro laughs and so do I.
    “Follow me,” she says.
    She leads me behind the Suburban, and then she looks both ways on the two-lane highway to ensure it’s safe to cross. There’s nobody out here.
    We walk across the road to a grassy area on the other side. Sheila Renfro points to a spot about ten feet off the road.
    “My daddy and my mom died right there.” Again, she says this matter-of-factly, as if she’s passing along esoterica (I love the word “esoterica”) rather than something deeply personal and painful. Dr. Buckley calls this “compartmentalization.” Dr. Buckley often told me that people develop strategies for keeping themselves from being harmed by others. Compartmentalizing pain helps with this. Compartmentalization was a difficult concept for me to master. I’m not good at developing strategies for pain. If something hurts me, I’m hurt, and I don’t hide it well. I hope Sheila Renfro knows that I don’t wish to hurt her.
    “I drive by here all the time,” she says. “Unless I want to go to Kansas, it’s the only route that leads anywhere I want to go. Every time I pass by, I think ‘Bam. They’re dead.’ People tell you life is short. They have no idea.”
    I finally understand how deep Sheila Renfro’s loss is. As I think about it now, I realize that in the three years, one month, and eighteen days that my father has been dead, I have never driven past the golf course where he had his heart attack. I don’t think I have consciously thought “I can’t go by there,” but I have avoided it just the same. Before I left on this trip, when I was coming home from Rimrock Mall (after getting my bitchin’ iPhone) and taking a circuitous (I love the word “circuitous”) route home to avoid left turns, I went all the way to Shiloh Road instead of Zimmerman Trail, because Zimmerman Trail runs right by the parking lot where my father was stricken.
    In a big city like Billings, I can compartmentalize my pain. Where Sheila Renfro lives, she must confront it all the time. I feel sad for my friend. She continues to stare at the spot, her hands jammed in her pockets, saying nothing.
    “Sheila Renfro?” I say.
    “Yes?”
    “I would like to give you a hug.”
    I have accepted hugs from people before, and I’ve even learned to like them from some people, like Donna Middleton (now Hays). I don’t remember ever asking to give somebody a hug. I’m going with a feeling, as Dr. Buckley would say.
    Sheila Renfro takes her hands from her pockets and steps toward me, closing the distance between us and pressing against me gently. She is being mindful of my ribs. I close my arms around her back. I smell Irish Spring. I miss my father. I miss certainty. I’ve begun to wonder if I ever had it. If I didn’t, I miss the illusion of certainty.
    I could stand here with her forever. That’s intentional overstatement. Obviously, I can’t stand here forever. Eventually, we’ll have to eat. Our muscles will get tired. The weather will turn poor sometime.
    A pickup headed toward Kit Carson passes, and the stirred-up wind stings us. I hug Sheila Renfro again. It won’t be forever, but I’ll hang on for as long as I can.

TECHNICALLY MONDAY, DECEMBER 19, 2011
    My father came back.
    It’s 2:11 a.m., and I’m breathing heavily again. The dream that knocked me out of sleep was a strange one. I was viewing my father’s body in the hospital, only it didn’t look like the antiseptic room where I saw him at St. Vincent Healthcare. This looked more like a church, with wooden seats and dark-colored carpeting. Carpeting, of course, would be totally impractical for a hospital.
    The scene was different from what happened in the conscious world in other ways, too. My mother was there, and she was crying, and that was the same. But Jay L. Lamb wasn’t there, like he was the day my father died. Sheila Renfro