In the Midst of Life

who
    Would rage at my presumption
    If I gave you leave to go.
    He is the great Disposer.
    For Him, it’s you who must depart,
    Give notice, go,
    Not wait for your release.’
    And so it was;
    My servant went
    And left me here and everywhere,
    No longer part but whole.
    —Philip Worth
     

THREESCORE YEARS AND TEN
     
    My grandfather’s death has an idealistic quality about it. His span of life had run out, he was cared for by his family, and he died peacefully in his own home. We would all wish to die like that. But, half a century later, we have to face the stark fact that for most of us it is unlikely.
    Not so long ago old age was seen as the natural winding down of life, but somewhere along the way that attitude has changed. Now our waning years are viewed as a series of illnesses requiring medical intervention. A GP can prescribe drugs to arrest the symptoms of ageing, but a time will come when this is not enough and, at that stage, the elderly person is taken into hospital for treatment. This is almost compulsory these days; consequently, the majority of us will die in hospital or an institution of some sort.
    It is a strange fact that a doctor cannot sign a death certificate having entered the cause of death as ‘old age’. This is illegal, and a doctor who did not conform would be censured. Death has to be caused by a named disease. In countries where births and deaths are registered, this is required by all governments, and endorsed by the World Health Organization. It is unlawful to die of old age. This is illogical, but as Mr Bumble the Beadle famously remarked in
Oliver Twist,
‘The law, Sir, is a ass.’
    We who are growing old know that we are. We feel it each day in our bones, in our joints, in our balance, and our slowing down; we see it in our hair and wrinkles; we find that little things we used to do without thinking have become difficult, and the struggle gets harder as the years go by. Strength, eyesight, hearing, memory, all begin to fail us. This is ageing, and we accept it because there is no alternative. Although we try to shut it from our minds weknow that death is approaching; we ‘know not the day nor the hour’, but we know it will come.
    We all react differently. In earlier generations it was time to ‘take to one’s bed’, for those who could afford it, and I have known many people who did exactly that. No doubt a bed, an armchair by the window and no exercise shortened life, but no one expected to live beyond the age of seventy. I don’t know of anyone who would want to do that now. Life has lengthened, thanks largely to drugs, but also to diet, general health, attitude and expectations. We know that the Horseman of Death is fast approaching, and it seems to have stimulated a collective desire to cram as much as possible into the few remaining years. Thousands of old people, with the help of medication and artificial hips and knees, are gadding about all over the world, doing things they have never done before, and enjoying life hugely. In 2005, to celebrate my seventieth year, I aimed to cycle one thousand miles for charity, and achieved fourteen hundred. This sort of crazy venture is not unusual. The organisers of activity holidays, such as a trek in the Himalayas, or perhaps the Road to Katmandu, often find that the majority of their clients are between sixty and ninety years old. Such activity would have been unthinkable a generation ago.
    Active old age is wonderful, but it is entirely dependent on good health, which is a gift of God, or if you prefer, the luck of the draw, and not a right of man. We all know that any day, at any hour, something catastrophic could happen – a stroke, a heart attack, a broken hip – that would put an end to the life we have built. And then we would be dependent on others. A chill of fear enters the heart. The medication that has given us an extra decade of active life can still keep a tired and ageing heart pumping; can maintain sufficient pressure to keep the blood circulating and prevent it coagulating; can make liver and kidneys continue to function. Medication can help us for a long time, even when the body is manifestly worn out. Legs cannot function, a tremor affects the limbs, eyesight and hearing go, voluntary and involuntary control deserts us, the brain … well, let us not speak too much ofthe brain, for that is the most frightening thought of all. ‘I would rather be dead,’ people say.
    Not so. The instinct to live is