Lean In

writing
Lean In
was as much his decision as mine. He supported me every step of the way, as he always does, with patience, great insight, humor, and love.

Lean In

By Sheryl Sandberg
Reading Group Guide
    ABOUT THIS READING GROUP GUIDE
    The questions, discussion topics, and reading list that follow are intended to enhance your reading group’s discussion of
Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
, by Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg.
    ABOUT THE BOOK
    Sheryl Sandberg—Facebook COO, ranked eighth on
Fortune
’s list of the 50 Most Powerful Women in Business—has become one of America’s most galvanizing leaders, and an icon for millions of women juggling work and family. In
Lean In
, she urges women to take risks and seek new challenges, to find work that they love, and to remain passionately engaged with that work at the highest levels throughout their lives.
    Lean In
—Sheryl Sandberg’s provocative, inspiring book about women and power—grew out of an electrifying TEDTalk she gave in 2010 in which she expressed her concern that progress for women in achieving major leadership positions had stalled. The talk became a phenomenon and has since been viewed nearly two million times. In
Lean In
, she fuses humorous personal anecdotes, singular lessons on confidence and leadership, and practical advice for women based on research, data, her own experiences, and the experiences of other women of all ages. Sandberg has an uncanny gift for cutting through layers of ambiguity that surround employed women, and in
Lean In
she grapples, piercingly, with the great questions of modern life. Her message to women is overwhelmingly positive. She is a trailblazing model for the ideas she so passionately espouses, and she’s on the pulse of a topic that has never been more relevant.
    QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION
          1. What does “lean in” mean? Why do you think women need to be urged to lean in?
          2. The first three words in the book are “I got pregnant.” What does this signal about the kind of business book
Lean In
will be?
          3. When Sandberg says, “The promise of equality is not the same as true equality” ( this page ), what does she mean? Have you found this statement to be accurate?
          4. Why is “ambitious” often considered a derogatory word when used to describe a woman but complimentary when used to describe a man?
          5. In chapter 2 , Sandberg discusses the impostor syndrome: feeling like a fraud, fearing discovery with each success. Why do women feel this way more often than men do? What causes the gender gap?
          6. Sandberg believes that there are times when you can reach for opportunities even if you are not sure you are quite ready to take them on—and then learn by doing. Have you ever tried this? What have you tried? What was the result?
          7. What did you learn from the anecdote on this page , about keeping your hand up?
          8. Why did Sandberg respond so negatively to being named the fifth most powerful woman in the world?
          9. When negotiating, Sandberg tells women to use the word “we” rather than “I.” Why does the choice of pronoun make such a difference?
        10. On this page , Sandberg says, “I understand the paradox of advising women to change the world by adhering to biased rules and expectations.” How do you feel about her advice?
        11. What’s your take on Sandberg’s suggestion that we think of the path to a satisfying career as a jungle gym rather than a ladder?
        12. Sandberg argues that taking risks can be important in building a career. How have you approached risk-taking in your life?
        13. Sandberg argues that mentorship relationships rarely happen from asking strangers to mentor you, but rather from an opportunity to engage with someone in a more substantive way. How has mentorship worked in your own experience?
        14. People who believe that they speak “the truth” and not “their truth” can be very silencing of others, Sandberg says on this page . What does she mean by this?
        15. When considering employment after motherhood, Sandberg suggests that women shift the calculations and measure the current cost of child care against their salary ten years from now. Why is this a more effective perspective than just considering current costs? If you’re a parent, would this change your attitude toward employment and money?
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