The Game

the conversation trail off. Look her in the eye while you pause the conversation. If she looks back for a count of three seconds, she wants to kiss. The uncomfortableness you may experience is my favorite thing in the whole world—sexual tension.

    —Nightlight9
    MSN GROUP: Mystery’s Lounge
    SUBJECT: Re: Sticking Point
    AUTHOR: Maddash

    I’ve never had a woman over to my place in a one-on-one situation who I didn’t at least kiss-close. Here is my routine:

    1. I have her come over to pick me up and only let her stay a couple minutes.This is because it’s a lot easier to get a woman back to your house at the end of the night if you’ve already had her over and nothing has happened.

    2. At the end of the date, I invite her back to my place and pour drinks.

    3. If she notices my guitar (it is prominently placed), I pick it up and play her a song.

    4. We play with my puppy.

    5. I show her the rooftop.

    6. I bring her back to the apartment and show her the Winamp music program on my computer while I sit her down on my lap. While she’s playing with the visualizations in Winamp, I kiss her on the cheek.

    7. She either turns and kisses me on the lips, or she continues playing with Winamp. If she hesitates, I just show her more things on the computer and then kiss her on the cheek again. She wants to be directed and ordered about. That is what almost all women want.

    8. You can figure out the rest.

    —Maddash
    MSN GROUP: Mystery’s Lounge
    SUBJECT: Re: Sticking Point
    AUTHOR: Grimble

    One of my favorite closing routines is massage. When we’re back at my place, I tell her I’m sore from playing basketball and need a back massage. But during the massage, I constantly tell her she’s doing it all wrong. Finally, I pretend to be exasperated and insist on showing her how it’s done. While massaging her back, I tell her she carries a lot of tension in her legs and that I give amazing leg massages to my friends. I start to massage her through her pants, but then tell her to remove them because they’re getting in the way. If you act as if you are the authority, she will not question you.
    At first, I stick to the legs. But, slowly, I work my way up to her buttocks. When she begins to get turned on, I begin rubbing her through her panties until she’s dripping wet. At this point, I usually just unbutton my pants, put on a condom, and start fucking her without kissing or actual foreplay.
    This technique is not for the timid.
    —Grimble

    MSN GROUP: Mystery’s Lounge
    SUBJECT: Re: Sticking Point
    AUTHOR: Mystery

    Want to know how I solve this problem? I don’t just say, “I don’t care what she thinks.” I actually don’t care what she thinks. When I was younger, this was such a big deal for me. But now, whether I get it or not, I am still the guy who goes for it.
    It helps to just think of the girl as practice. If the fear is still there inside, just say, “Phase-shift! I’m now a caveman! I’m no longer Style. Let’s see if she hates me. If so, fuck it. I don’t give a shit.”
    Look back to girls you didn’t caveman, and they aren’t in your life. So fucking what? Do you care that she has a fond memory of some guy she met six months ago while a caveman is now fucking her? You gotta actually hit on her sometime. Say, “Stick your tongue out.” Then suck on it. If she slaps you, good! That story would rock.
    Maddash talked about how using well-chosen props are a great way tofocus a girl’s attention on something else so she doesn’t resist overt sexual moves. I agree. Say, “Look at the puppet show over there,” while you play with her tits. If she hesitates about the tit-play, simply point to the puppets and laugh, “Look at the puppets. Look, they are funny puppets.” Then play with the tits again.

    —Mystery

    MSN GROUP: Mystery’s Lounge
    SUBJECT: Sticking Point Solved
    AUTHOR: Style

    Thanks for all your help. I think I finally figured out a solution. The answer came to me out of the blue a week ago, and I’ve field-tested it successfully nearly every night since.
    It struck me when I was sitting at the Standard with an Irish girl who told me she married young, recently divorced, and now craves adventure. When I started to get IOIs, I thought about your posts. I realized that if I lunged for her, she’d be startled and reject me. So I decided to take baby steps in the direction of kissing while doing something like Mystery’s puppet show and talking logically the whole