The Trauma of Everyday Life

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Duchamp, Marcel, 171–72, 177
dukkha
,
see
suffering
Dylan, Bob, 47
ego, 9, 29, 31, 38, 44, 56, 79, 81, 86, 87, 90, 95, 98, 103, 107, 126, 153–54, 156–58, 198
Mara and, 186
egocentric fires, 36, 47
ego defense, 64
Eigen, Michael, 62–63, 93–94, 110, 165, 170–71, 177
Eightfold Path,
see
Noble Eightfold Path
emotions,
see
feelings and emotions
empathy, 170, 182, 191
enlightenment, 168, 182
of Buddha, 18, 19, 20, 33, 54, 65–66, 79, 99, 100, 115, 118–21, 160–64, 168–69, 171, 182–83, 185, 187, 189, 190, 192–93, 203, 207, 208
entanglement, 13–14, 15, 19
explicit (narrative) memory, 149, 150, 154, 156, 158, 162, 173
eyes and sight, 132–33
fear, 105–7, 111, 124, 126–27, 129, 137, 138, 155, 156
feelings and emotions, 122–43, 153
in children, 149, 151, 157
mindfulness of, 124, 125–28, 134, 198
unprocessed, 147
female element, 153–54, 158, 169
fight or flight, 150
fires:
egocentric, 36, 47
of trauma, 35, 36
Fire Sermon, 34–40, 42, 44, 45, 47, 100, 142, 209
Fonagy, Peter, 140–42
Forest Refuge, 104
Four Noble Truths, 2, 12, 13, 19, 26, 33, 100, 111, 160, 193, 204
First, 5, 12, 18, 26, 58, 196
Third, 18
Fourth, 18, 204
Freud, Anna, 81
Freud, Sigmund, 9, 16, 81, 87, 88, 159, 164, 198, 203
From, Isadore, 67
Gandhi, Indira, 26
Gere, Richard, 47
Ginsberg, Allen, 26–27, 111
glass, broken, 45–46, 47, 62, 142–43, 183
Goldstein, Joseph, 18, 90–91, 92, 135, 137–38
Gombrich, Richard, 37, 127
Great Embrace, 193
greed, 36, 47
grief, 206
groundlessness, 106, 111
Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life
(Shantideva), 47
hatred, 36, 47
Hoffman, Albert, 132–33
Hughes, Ted, 69
ignorance, eradication of, 193
illness, 2, 3, 22, 55, 56, 107, 184
impermanence, 45–46, 65, 83, 106, 107, 142, 193
implicit memory, 144–49, 162, 173, 177–78, 197, 201, 204
implicit relational knowing, 169–70, 173–74, 178, 180–83, 185, 188, 190–91, 193, 194, 202, 203, 211
India, 22, 31, 33
Ginsberg in, 26–27, 111
inescapable contingency, 191
infant-caregiver relationship, 23–26, 29–31, 38, 43–44, 46–47, 72, 74, 76, 77, 139–42, 149, 151–52, 154, 157, 158, 178, 182
breast-feeding and, 76–77, 151, 152–53
caretaker self and, 210
controlling-caregiving attachment in, 172
controlling-punitive strategy in, 172–73
healthy attachment in, 197
helpless and fearful parents in, 172
implicit relational knowing and, 169–70, 178
and learning to stand and walk, 67–68
intrinsic identity habit, 95
investigation, in mindfulness, 89–90, 97
joy, 79, 83, 97, 103, 114–21, 126, 129, 139, 164, 198, 207
juggling, 6–7
Kabat-Zinn, Jon, 65
karma, 40–41, 191
Karma Thinley Rinpoche, 176–77
kindness, 161, 175, 194
Kisagotami, 40, 41–42, 55, 60, 199
knowing, knowledge, 181, 193
reflective/verbal, 170
relational, 150, 169–70, 173–74, 178, 180–83, 185, 188, 190–91, 193, 194, 202, 203, 211
koans, 207–9, 211
Kornfield, Jack, 173–74
Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, 206
LeDoux, Joseph, 197
Loori, John Daido, 90
love, 76, 79
male element, 153–54, 158, 169
mantra, 201–2
Mara, 185–90
Maya,
see
Buddha, mother of
meditation, 3, 6, 7–8, 10, 28, 31, 44, 66, 80–81, 86–92, 95, 96, 107–8, 117, 128, 133, 136–37, 140, 153–55, 158, 181, 184, 194, 204
breath in, 87, 88, 155
Buddha and, 87–88, 108
cell-phone, 80–84, 85–86, 87, 96, 192
crying in, 96–97, 98, 109
forms of, 87
memory:
explicit (narrative), 149, 150, 154, 156, 158, 162, 173
implicit, 144–49, 162, 173, 177–78, 197, 201, 204
Middle Path, 116, 119, 127, 139, 156, 168, 194
mind, 85, 194
mindfulness of, 124, 128, 129, 134, 183
reflections of, 179–95
as relational home, 202
mindfulness, 6, 28, 31, 63, 65, 80, 86–90, 92, 95, 98, 105, 107, 120, 140, 148, 153–56, 194, 204
of the body, 124–25, 134, 198
of feelings, 124, 125–28, 134, 198
Four Foundations of, 123–34, 142, 143, 156, 184, 198, 199
of mental objects, 124, 128–29, 198
of mind, 124, 128, 129, 134, 183
relaxation and investigation in, 89–90, 97
trauma and, 149, 198
mirror neurons, 170
narrative memory, 149, 150, 154, 156, 158, 162, 173
New York Times
, 117, 132
9/11 attacks, 55
nirvana, 6, 19, 20, 185, 193
negative and positive views of, 37
samsara and, 37–38
nobility, 34
Noble Eightfold Path, 2, 163, 164, 204
Realistic View, 2–4, 204, 205, 206, 207
Notebooks of Malte Laurids Brigge, The
(Rilke), xiii
oceanic feeling, 87, 164
Orlovsky, Peter, 26–27
Pali Canon, 51–53, 83, 100, 112, 113–14, 123–24
Pasenadi, King, 180–81
, 59–63, 64, 65, 71, 83, 88,