The Trauma of Everyday Life

Human Existence: Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, and Philosophical Reflections
(New York: Routledge, 2007), p. 10.
2 .
The Dhammapada.
Copyright, P. Lal, Writer’s Workshop, 162/92 Lake Gardens, Calcutta, India 7004S (New York: Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 1967), p. 115.
3 . Walpola Rahula,
What the Buddha Taught
(New York: Grove, 1974), p. 22.
4 . Richard Gombrich,
What the Buddha Thought
(London: Equinox, 2009), p. 161.
5 .
Ibid
.
6 . Joseph Goldstein,
Abiding in Mindfulness, vol.
1
,
Sounds True
. See also Ana layo Sati,
The Direct Path to Realization
(Cambridge, Windhorse, 2003), p. 244
7 . Richard Gombrich,
What the Buddha Thought
(London: Equinox, 2009), p. 166.
8 . As recounted in
George, Being George: George Plimpton’s Life as Told, Admired, Deplored and Envied by 200 Friends, Lovers, Aquaintances, Rivals—and a Few Unappreciative Observers
. Edited by Nelson W. Aldrich, Jr. (New York: Random House, 2008), p. 89.
9 . Sharon Salzberg first made me aware of this apparent contradiction.
    Chapter Two: Primitive Agony

1 . Bhikkhu,
The Life of the Buddha: According to the Pali Canon
(Kandy, Sri Lanka: Buddhist Publication Society, 1972/1992), pp. 32, 38.
2 .
Ibid
., p. 39.
3 .
Ibid
., p. 40.
4 . Walpola Rahula,
What the Buddha Taught
(New York: Grove, 1974), p. 12.
5 . Bhikkhuand Bhikkhu Bodhi, trans.,
The Middle Length Discourses of the Buddha: A New Translation of the Majjhima
(Boston: Wisdom, 1995), MN ii, 258, p. 865.
6 . D. W. Winnicott, “The Theory of the Parent-Infant Relationship,” in
The
Motivational Processes and the Facilitating
Environment
(New York: International Universities Press, 1965), p. 39, no 1.
7 . Sandra Boynton,
What’s Wrong, Little Pookie?
(New York: Random House, 2007).
8 . Robert Stolorow,
Trauma and Human Existence
:
Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, and Philosophical Reflections
(New York: Routledge, 2007), pp. 3–4.
9 .
Ibid.,
p. 1.
10 . Deborah Baker,
A Blue Hand: The Beats in India
(New York: Penguin, 2008), pp. 202–3.
11 . Nyanaponika Thera,
The Heart of Buddhist Meditation
(New York: Samuel Weiser, 1962), p. 30.
12 . D. W. Winnicott,
Babies
and Their Mothers
(Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley, 1988), pp. 36–38.
13 . Krishna Das,
Chants of a Lifetime
(Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, 2010), p. 172.
    Chapter Three: Everything Is Burning

1 . Richard Gombrich,
What the Buddha Thought
(London: Equinox, 2009), p. 113.
2 .
Ibid.,
p. 111.
3 . Bhikkhu,
The Life of the Buddha: According to the Pali Canon
(Kandy, Sri Lanka: Buddhist Publication Society, 1972/1992), p. 64.
4 . Gombrich,
What the Buddha Thought,
p. 112.
5 .
Ibid
.
6 .
Ibid.
7 .
Ibid
., p. 113.
8 .
Ibid
., p. 33.
9 . Robert Stolorow,
Trauma and Human Existence: Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, and Philosophical Reflections
(New York: Routledge, 2007), p. 10.
10 . Gombrich,
What the Buddha Thought,
p. 20.
11 . Lucien Stryk,
World of the Buddha
(New York: Grove Weidenfeld, 1968), pp. 173–74.
12 .
Ibid
., p. 174.
13 . D. W. Winnicott,
Playing and Reality
(London and New York: Routledge, 1971), p. 11.
14 . Michael Eigen,
Contact with the Depths
(London: Karnac, 2011), p. 13.
    Chapter Four: The Rush to Normal

1 . Sherab Chödzin Kohn,
A Life of the Buddha
(Boston: Shambhala, 2009), p. 7.
2 .
Ibid.
3 . Bhikkhu,
The Life of the Buddha: According to the Pali Canon
(Kandy, Sri Lanka: Buddhist Publication Society, 1972/1992), p. 8.
4 .
Ibid
., pp. 8–9.
5 . Robert Stolorow,
Trauma and Human Existence: Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, and Philosophical Reflections
(New York: Routledge, 2007), p. 16.
6 .
Ibid
.
7 .
Ibid.
8 .
Ibid.
9 . Nyanaponika Thera and Hellmuth Hecker,
Great Disciples of the Buddha
(Boston: Wisdom, 2003), pp. 293–300.
10 .
Ibid.,
p. 295.
11 .
Ibid.
12 .
Ibid.
p. 297.
13 .
Ibid.
, p. 300.
14 . Michael Eigen,
The Electrified Tightrope
(London: Karnac, 1993/2004), p. 133.
15 . Stolorow,
Trauma and Human Existence,
p. 16.
    Chapter Five: Dissociation

1 . Jon Kabat-Zinn,
Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness
(New York: Delacorte, 1990)
.
2 . Philip M. Bromberg,
Standing in the Spaces
(Hillsdale, NJ: Analytic Press, 1998), p. 190.
3 .
The Voice of the Buddha: The Beauty of Compassion, Volume I
, translated by Gwendolyn Bays (Berkeley, CA: Dharma, 1983), p. 147.
4 . Miranda Shaw,
Buddhist Goddesses of India
(Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 2006), p. 46.
5 . Anahad O’Connor, “Obituary: Nicholas Hughes, 47, Sylvia Plath’s Son,”
New York