Now That Hes Gone

lots of friends. I hope you'll think of me as one of them.
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Acknowledgements
    Writing a book is truly a labor of love, and I have many people to thank for their support, assistance and encouragement.
    First, I would like to thank the members of my family, from whom I have received so much in so many different ways. My daughter, Jennifer, who has been my collaborator, helping me shape my ideas and thoughts. My son, Jeremy, who is my business partner and whose belief in this project truly set it into motion. My sister, Judy, who was my chief sounding-board and editor.
    I want to recognize my friend and former business partner, Judy Brosky, for being with and supporting me during my transitions.
    I would like to thank Mike Hernacki, my talented writer/editor without whose efforts we would never have had a book to publish.
    Finally, my wonderful circle of friends, whose advice, inspiration and enthusiasm continued to move this project forward. Their belief in me and in this project never wavered, even when I so often did.

Appendix
Books You Might Find Helpful
    Suddenly Single: Money Skills for Divorcées and Widows , by Kerry Hannon Published by John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 1988
    Covers many topics of interest to single women in mid-life. Virtually all financial issues. Some the information is a bit dated.
    Flying Solo: Single Women in Mid-Life , by Carol Anderson, Susan Stewart & Sona Dimidijian. Published by W.W. Norton & Co., Inc., 1994
    Written primarily for divorcées, it takes a refreshingly positive position on women choosing to be single during mid-life. Addresses issues of children, remarriage, career change and coping with society's negative view of single women.
    The Widow's Handbook: A Guide for Living , by Carlotte Foehner & Carol Cozart Published by Fulcrum, Inc., 1988
    Format is that of a handbook—that is, a book you refer to for specific information as needed during your first two years of widowhood. Not the kind of book you sit down and read cover-to-cover. Does not address divorce. Has not been updated, so some of the information is out of date.
    On Your Own: A Widow's Passage to Emotional & Financial Well-Being , by Alexandra Armstrong, Mary R. Donahue
    Published by Dearborn Financial Publishing, 2000
    Written by a financial planner and a psychologist. Though the title suggests a balance of content between emotional and financial issues, it's actually about 10% psychology and 90% finance. Has sold well and is in its fourth edition.
    The Widow's Resource: How to Solve the Financial and Legal Problems That Occur Within the First Six to Nine Months of Your Husband's Death , by Julie A. Calligaro Published by Women's Source Books, 1997
    The author is an attorney whose sole focus is on dealing with the legal problems, existing and potential, that arise in widowhood.
Websites to Get You Started
    As I pointed out in Chapter 10, the Internet is an unlimited, possibly overwhelming treasure trove of information about any topic you can possibly think of. The list that follows is just a hint at the number of websites you can explore. Start with these and see where your search takes you.
    www.widowsresource.com
    This is a digital “handbook,” with forms, articles on grief, even meditations. Offers some free resources available if you send your e-mail address.
    www.womansdivorce.com
    Dedicated to helping women take control of their divorce, with information on the legal, financial and emotional aspects. Includes articles on “starting over.”
    www.divorcenet.com
    The Internet's largest divorce resource, offering articles specific to certain states. This can be important since state laws vary widely. Includes an “online community” and a nationwide directory of divorce lawyers, mediators and financial professionals.
    www.aamft.org
    This is the website for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). It is the professional association for marriage and family therapists, representing the professional interests of more than 23,000 therapists throughout the United States, Canada, and abroad.
    www.aaml.org
    The website for the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), a national organization of family law attorneys committed to the highest standards. Provides referrals to first-rate matrimonial lawyers in your area.
    www.grief.net
    The website of The Grief Recovery Institute, which offers The “Grief Recovery Outreach Program,” a 12-week program,